I understand that the title of this blog itself may bother some of you. But—NEWS FLASH….. The world, culture, and the entertainment industry didn’t invent sex. God did! It was His big idea for His creation! We find from scripture that there were several reasons God had for thinking up sex. Some of the reasons are obvious, but we may not recognize all the reasons. Procreation comes to mind pretty quickly when you ask, “What was God thinking?”. It was God’s chosen avenue by which man and woman (husband and wife) would procreate and fill the earth with godly offspring (Malachi 2:15). Secondly, sex was for companionship. God established that it wasn’t good for man to be alone so subsequently, God created a woman (Eve) that would fit with Adam—emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, and physically so that they could become “one flesh”. (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:6, Mark 10:8, 1 Corinthians 6:15-16). Most Bible commentators agree that “one flesh” references a sexual intimacy as well as the whole person. Finally, (and the reason that some people have trouble with) God intended sex for the pleasure of a husband and wife within the context of a marriage relationship. Yes—pleasure, fun, enjoyment! If you believe the Bible, you can’t overlook how God instructs husbands and wives to enjoy not only the act of sex itself, but even the body of their spouse. Proverbs 5:15-20 is a great example. A husband is not to look outside of the marriage relationship to be pleasured, but he is to enjoy and “be captivated” by his wife–and even certain parts of her body are named! (Yes–in the BIBLE! Go read it!) The Song of Solomon portrays both sexes equally pursuing and enjoying their intimate relationship. And—one of my favorite passages is found in Deuteronomy 24:5 where we see that a couple is given a whole year to essentially enjoy each other after getting married. They can’t work or go to war! The Hebrew words in the passage indicate that they are to “bring happiness” to each other by relating to each other sexually. So with all that said, I think God was thinking MUCH about His creation of sex. The fact that the enemy has degraded sex, should be a sign to us that he knows the value of sex when it is experienced within God's design. Don’t dismiss the value of sex in your relationship. God places a high premium on sex in the marriage relationship. Your sexuality is to be guarded, cherished, preserved, and protected. Jimmy Evans, author and founder/president of XO Marriage, says….“Good sex is always intentional.” So, I’d also say, be intentional about finding enjoyment in this intimate area of your life that God created solely for a husband and a wife within the marriage relationship! It may take some work, some conversations, and some experimenting together, but God created sex for enjoyment in marriage! Are you missing out? Take a step towards recapturing all that God intended for you and your spouse today in this intimate part of your life! God thought up a beautiful thing that He intends to be a pleasure in the life of a married couple!
