Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. Point out anything in me that offends you, and lead me along the path of everlasting life.
Self-awareness is a necessary thing—especially in marriage! It is easy to see what is wrong in other people, especially when we are in close relationships. It’s much harder sometimes to look in the mirror and see our own wrong. After all, we feel we’ve earned the right to act like we do, or talk like we do, or lash out like we do. (I know YOU don’t lash out! Only when it’s absolutely necessary, huh?) Aren’t we good at justifying our negative behaviors? I know that I have justified mine several times in this life I’ve been living! (Lord, help me!) Would you just stop today with me and ask, “Lord, is there anything in me that might need adjusting? Are there changes that I could make that would improve my marriage?” If we will allow Him to, God will show us areas in our own life where we can make changes. He will help us be more self-aware if we will be brave enough to just ask. Our willingness to be more self-aware and to make necessary changes in our own behaviors and attitudes can revolutionize our relationships with others! Maybe we need to lighten up a little. Maybe we don’t need to be so overbearing. Maybe we need to offer a little more grace and mercy----(you know---like the kind Jesus offers us!) Most of us need more than just some behavior modifications. We need transformation! A step towards self-awareness is the first step towards transformation. Will you pray Psalm 139:23-24? Will you give God opportunity to start your process to change? I’ve realized, more than one time, that I was the one in n
eed of change. I was the one in the relationship that God desired to transform. I’ve also realized that when I’m focused on being SELF-aware, I am not so preoccupied with the negative things in others!